Need some advice on disciplining a 13 yo

[Unicorn Jeff]

A lot of you bastards may not know but I'm getting married and with that marriage comes 3 step kids. One of which is 13 years old. He's a good kid, listens for the most part and doesn't talk back. But his school work... is fucking horrible and I've been nice for too long to let this shit slide. I just want to know what you guys have done with your 13 year olds (Male) discipline wise. I'm still new to all of this

We've grounded him from everything and also JUST took his phone away.

[Baron Von Crowder]

landscape stone and long walks.

[Unicorn Jeff]

landscape stone and long walks.

Trust me that's already crossed my mind LOLOL

[bcoop]

A lot of you bastards may not know but I'm getting married and with that marriage comes 3 step kids. One of which is 13 years old. He's a good kid, listens for the most part and doesn't talk back. But his school work... is fucking horrible and I've been nice for too long to let this shit slide. I just want to know what you guys have done with your 13 year olds (Male) discipline wise. I'm still new to all of this

Reason # 123908234908253098234 not to marry someone with kids. Too many fish in the sea to inherit someone else's problems.


If you beat them, CPS will get involved. If you give them military style punishment, CPS will get involved. You're fucked, buddy.

[A_A_G]

Take away all electronics. No gaming system, computer, tablet, internet access, etc. And be firm that it's gone until his grades improve.

[War Machine]

piss on his bed while hes at school.

[Shorty]

Have you tried hitting them?

[CexMashean]

Give me my phone back, you aren't my dad!!!!!

[bcoop]

Seriously though, start with taking things away. Make him earn them back with good grades. If that doesn't work, go military style. Make him move piles of bricks, or dig holes, then fill them back in. Nitpick everything while he's doing it. You have to make him learn that anything worth doing, is worth doing right the first time. If he doesn't do it right, make him do it again. And again and again and again. He will eventually figure it out and apply it to all areas.

You will also need to sit down with him every night, go over what homework he has, etc. Check all work. If something is wrong, tell him it's wrong, but let him figure out why it's wrong on his own. Only help if absolutely necessary.

My last resort is spanking. Not because I'm afraid to whip their asses, but because it isn't necessary most of the time. Don't get me wrong, it's fitting for some punishments, but whipping his ass over bad grades isn't going to fix the root problem permanently.

[Baron Von Crowder]

Trust me that's already crossed my mind LOLOL

lol

I dont know how to help you, man. I went through that myself as a kid, and just had to outgrow it, I guess. My parents tried a lot of different things, assuming that I just didnt give a shit and were trying to motivate me. Hell, my stepmom said she would give me $100 for a straight A report card, and the best I could pull off was barely passing. Sometime around 15ish I was getting straight A's without trying. Never really thought about what changed, not sure I can say.

[Unicorn Jeff]

Reason # 123908234908253098234 not to marry someone with kids. Too many fish in the sea to inherit someone else's problems.


If you beat them, CPS will get involved. If you give them military style punishment, CPS will get involved. You're fucked, buddy.

I let momma take care of that dirty work bullshit. And they're great kids. Just the grades thing is what's pissing us off.

[Unicorn Jeff]

Give me my phone back, you aren't my dad!!!!!

LOL!!!!! Tough shit, I'm the one that pay's for it.

[Unicorn Jeff]

piss on his bed while hes at school.

Thought of that too!

[Scott Mc]

Best advice yet, the best way is usually the hardest with kids. Mine sure do learn the hard way!

Seriously though, start with taking things away. Make him earn them back with good grades. If that doesn't work, go military style. Make him move piles of bricks, or dig holes, then fill them back in. Nitpick everything while he's doing it. You have to make him learn that anything worth doing, is worth doing right the first time. If he doesn't do it right, make him do it again. And again and again and again. He will eventually figure it out and apply it to all areas.

You will also need to sit down with him every night, go over what homework he has, etc. Check all work. If something is wrong, tell him it's wrong, but let him figure out why it's wrong on his own. Only help if absolutely necessary.

My last resort is spanking. Not because I'm afraid to whip their asses, but because it isn't necessary most of the time. Don't get me wrong, it's fitting for some punishments, but whipping his ass over bad grades isn't going to fix the root problem permanently.

[Nash B.]

This guy knows what's up.