Disciplinary action?

[line-em-up]

Spanking your kid doesn't work for you?

If spanking isn't working, you're not doing it right.

[Ruffdaddy]

I like the sports and activities idea.

Find something that he really likes and will really miss, that way the threat of taking it away does bother him.

Additionally, there's a lot that can be done in the way of teaching the benefits of being good, having a good reputation, and payoffs for merit. It shouldn't be all discipline.

[Craizie]

You named him Seth? Every Seth I have ever heard of was an asshole.

The last time I acted like an asshole as a child I got slapped in the face with a chef's knife by my grandmother. It scared the ever loving shit out of me. Try that.

[Roscoe]

I enjoyed making my son write (in full) the Declaration of Independence, Bill of Rights, etc.

Kids hate writing shit that is boring to them, but they learn.... Took him 6 hours on a few occasions.

[ELVIS]

My son is in martial arts and his instructor won't let him advance belts unless he brings a note from home saying he is being polite, helping around the house, doing things first time asked etc etc.. Plus he has to make decent grades.. He is normally worn out by the end of lass and wound down enough after to sit down and get his homework done.. He's def not perfect and will try to push the limits as most kids will try.

perfect stephen. that has a ton to do with it too. Jr is in baseball and soccer. that is 4-5 nights a week. he knows he better listen the first time something is asked, or its an issue. i think i have only spanked him 2-3times in his 6yrs. all being due to something that is serious enough to be fatal. ie running into the street. he got a spanking because I needed him to remember that. i am so lucky he is not like me. i had to learn everything the hard way. that said you have to start discipline when they are young. i see parents with kids Jr's age having to raise their voice and scream at their kids in public, and im jsut like.... that shit should have been started at home. i wont embarass Jr or myself by acting like that. when he gets a little wild in public as boys do and i believe should, if i feel its too much i can stop it with a look. he sees the look because he knows the behavior is sketchy and is already looking at me to see if he can get away with it. its amazing when you start out young and are 100% consistant what you can get acomplished by getting your back straight and with a little bass in your voice. im not father of the year by any chance man, but just wanted to post what has been working for me. best of luck.

god bless.

[SSMAN]

My son is 9 and he is constantly getting into trouble at school and at home. Mainly not listening and trying to do what he wants. We have talked to him to see what his problem is and he just has some smart ass response or wont say anything. We have taken away video games, then his satellite, toys, grounding and tried spankings but that didn't work for either one of us. He is now outside doing air raids. We have found that he really hates those, but he continues to do the same things.Anybody got any suggestions?

Sometimes you have to let them know who the baddest SOB in the house is. I had to bust my son's ass quite often, but he was only bad at school. He was great at home Broke my heart to have to do it.

You son may have ADHD.

[Stephen]

My son is in martial arts and his instructor won't let him advance belts unless he brings a note from home saying he is being polite, helping around the house, doing things first time asked etc etc.. Plus he has to make decent grades.. He is normally worn out by the end of lass and wound down enough after to sit down and get his homework done.. He's def not perfect and will try to push the limits as most kids will try.

[ELVIS]

quit making him wear that horrible raven purple.

but srsly. the key is consistancy. the punishment needs to happen everytime its needed. only good behavior is rewarded, bad behavior has consequences. put him to bed at 7pm if he screws up.
god bless.

[lincolnboy]

just act crazy and break stuff acting like your mad.

[downshift_me]

He's been this way for years if you think back. Take everything out of his room besides a mattress on the floor with a blanket. Once he is home from school he does homework with no snack, gets dinner with no dessert, 5 minute shower and bed early. Bust his ass on command and make sure Steph does too without joking and with meaning...not a swat, either. After that make him write sentences for every little thing which will get old quick. When he asks why you're doing this tell him until he can be a respectful human being he can participate in being a part of the family.

Things to think about: He went how long being the baby before #3 showed up? He may be acting out for attention, because bad attention is better than none.

Who is he hanging around at school? Monkey see, monkey do.

Lastly, did y'all ever do any ADD/ADHD testing? He may not be able to focus.


Orrrrrr....ignore of that and put the fear of God into him and this can be done without hitting him. However, he has no understanding of what happened to you as a child so while it may hurt you he has no idea. You're not beating your kid or abusing him as you were as a child. A spanking is a spanking and when done properly can be eye opening.

I'm still doped up on morphine over here so I may need to edit this later.

[GT Fanatic]

how much time do you guys spend with your kids? could one be jealous of the others getting attention?

[krazy kris]

Now the sports thing isn't a bad idea. It worked with my daughter. We put her in gymnastics and soccer. She has turned completely around. Her soccer coach is an ex marine and is tuff on her but she has taught her the meaning of respect and excepts nothing but 100%.

This chic is awesome. 43 and looks all of 28.

Now you know you can't say shit like this without pics

[petyweestraw]

Now the sports thing isn't a bad idea. It worked with my daughter. We put her in gymnastics and soccer. She has turned completely around. Her soccer coach is an ex marine and is tuff on her but she has taught her the meaning of respect and excepts nothing but 100%.

This chic is awesome. 43 and looks all of 28.

[petyweestraw]

Lol, morgan is an angel compared to Seth

I had a very violent childhood growing up(slapped in the face with buckles of tool belts and punched by my dad and clawed, burned with cigarette lighters, slapped with rings by my mom) and spanking just brings back hints of it.

Same. Got the living Hell beat out of me as a kid. When I get upset at my son I try to take a breather before I deal with him. Don't want to be my dad.

Now I will say I got to him at a very early age. Tried to get him to do somethin and he screamed at th top of his lungs no!!!!!

The swelling went down after a while. He's never talked back since.

Now with my wife it's a diff story. He has no fear of her. She tries spanking. Nothing. He's a big 11 and is taller than her.

So to fix him we took away stuff. He decided to take it back once when I was gone. I made him take out his psp and shoot it with my 12 gauge three times. Told him if he decides to take back something this is what will happen. That stopped.

The disrespect towards my wife didn't. So she resorted to physical and redundant labor. She made him dig a whole. 3 foot square by 1 foot deep. Then fill it back in. Then move a stack of 25 30 pound bricks 20 feet from the original spot. He did this for 3 days before he cracked. She told me he came inside crying and saying he's sorry.

He will step out of line a bit and she reminds him about what's waiting in the back yard if he keeps it up. It works every time.

I thought she was crazy at first. But hey it worked.

[idrivea4banger]

He has been down to a bed in his room and thats it for the last 2 weeks and nothing has changed.

Nothings changed because in his eyes that's not a punishment, it's an inconvenience. You can make him do all those things as much as you want, he'll just keep playing the game. He's already showing you he's not afraid of getting in trouble.