May need a lawyer... DVORCE NEVER ENDS

[Treasure Chest]

He called the ex..she is getting paid. It appears to be a clerical error. After a visit from my old friend that is a paralegal and a "bribe" with some Whataburger french fries and a few beers.. she says the paper received looks fishy because it doesn't have the official seal and letterhead. She is going to be passing it up to her boss on Monday to get it sorted out.




It's crazy how this shit gets so screwed up..it happens alot from what she said. One wrong number and you are hosed.

Also, If he gets on child support intersctive, it will tell him if he's under an enforced order or not. If he's not actually under an enforced order (meaning that it was court ordered in the divorce papers and the ex didn't seek payment through a case with the DA), they don't keep track of arrears. He may get some insight as to whether the papers are legit or not through child support interactive. If he's in arrears, it will show on his account.

[Gargamel]

Why are they counting you as being in arrears? Were the garnished payments not quite adding up to the payment schedule (as in, child support is taken out of your check on the 1st and the 15th, where the support order has it taken out bi-weekly?)

Second, have you accessed your online account on child support interactive with your case ID and PIN and looked at the calculation of the discrepancy?

Fuck, my ex is almost 6 months (legitimately) in arrears on our son, in an enforced case, and they haven't gone after him for shit. I don't think they start screwing with you unless your ex is instigating it.

The payments coming out of my check is the amount stated in the withholding court order... Its accurate...

Payroll has verified that the checks are being sent correctly....

And as Smurfette said, my Ex IS getting paid...

It's gotta be a state error....
which to be honest, is now MY job to prove THEM wrong....

I get to call the AG office Monday and screw with this waste of time.

Children don't have standards of living beyond a few small things and low cost items. They don't own homes, don't own cars, don't have expenses beyond their basic needs. The only things I can think of that may be a big ticket item for children would be playing in select league sports or attending a private school. Medical care could be another issue in limited cases. Even in those extreme cases, in theory the father is only supposed to be paying for half of the costs.

I know someone who pays $1500 a month for two children. One 12 year old and another 5 year old. This person is not wealthy, makes six figures in a blue collar job thanks to overtime. What this means is that, in theory, raising those two kids costs $3000 a month in total. Absurd.

Yep, Welcome to being the father in a divorce in the State of Texas.... assumed guilty at EVERYTHING and monetarily raped at every turn....

This coming from a guy who paid 20% of my check to child support for over a year without a court order because it was the right thing to do, not because some "robe" told him to do it....

I thought smurffette had a penis???

She does.... and he's fucking working today... again.... ugh...

[Dave586]

All of this is true. However, it would help the situation if men weren't raped in court every day for outrageous amounts of money in the name of child support. There are men out there who pay $800 a month for what is supposed to be half of what it costs to support a child. That is absurd by any measure and the children suffer for it because some men just say fuck it and move to another state or disappear.

100% agree. And they can come back every 2 years to rape you for more. Everytime I pick my son up from his mommy he looks like he is in clothes from Goodwill, but mommy is leasing a new SUV, and living in a nice house.

As for the OPs original problem - Just get a lawyer.

[stevo]

I thought smurffette had a penis???

Who said she/he doesn't?

Stevo

[71chevellejohn]

He called the ex..she is getting paid. It appears to be a clerical error. After a visit from my old friend that is a paralegal and a "bribe" with some Whataburger french fries and a few beers.. she says the paper received looks fishy because it doesn't have the official seal and letterhead. She is going to be passing it up to her boss on Monday to get it sorted out.




It's crazy how this shit gets so screwed up..it happens alot from what she said. One wrong number and you are hosed.

No ex-wives or baby-mama drama over here Sweetie


j/k

[VaderTT]

I thought smurffette had a penis???

[racrguy]

Jodi didnt like it. What makes you think I would?

awww, c'mon. Keep them gloves up doc.

[davbrucas]

DFWM Group buy on vasectomies? Can you give us a hook up, Doctor? You know you'd love to be up close and personal with my meat anyway!

Jodi didnt like it. What makes you think I would?

[Skidmark]

GE, I didn't know you knew paralegals?

[Smurfette]

Can you not have payroll check to see if the checks have been cashed/processed(not just mailed)?

He called the ex..she is getting paid. It appears to be a clerical error. After a visit from my old friend that is a paralegal and a "bribe" with some Whataburger french fries and a few beers.. she says the paper received looks fishy because it doesn't have the official seal and letterhead. She is going to be passing it up to her boss on Monday to get it sorted out.




It's crazy how this shit gets so screwed up..it happens alot from what she said. One wrong number and you are hosed.

[71chevellejohn]

Can you not have payroll check to see if the checks have been cashed/processed(not just mailed)?

[Broncojohnny]

I don't disagree that the system isn't perfect. But the example you used is not the best example of that. What you are referring to is that child support is based on the father's salary. Hence a man making 30k will not pay the same as a man making 100k, and vice versa. I don't think that is unfair. If a child has a certain standard of living (determined by the father's salary...then why should the child's standard of living suffer because of a divorce? I know, I know...there are bitches out there that use the extra to do what THEY want and not provide for the child per the support given. At that point the issue lies with a shithead mom and not the judicial system. Surely there is a way to deter this and I have my own thoughts on what they should be, but too tired right now to lay them out.

I would say that the powers that be should revamp it/overhaul it..but they fucked it up in the first place. The problem lies with the individual powers of the judge. This country is a rule of law type (in addition to others) but some judges have chips on their shoulders and all too often try to "make examples" out of people; but that's a whole 'nother conversation.

Children don't have standards of living beyond a few small things and low cost items. They don't own homes, don't own cars, don't have expenses beyond their basic needs. The only things I can think of that may be a big ticket item for children would be playing in select league sports or attending a private school. Medical care could be another issue in limited cases. Even in those extreme cases, in theory the father is only supposed to be paying for half of the costs.

I know someone who pays $1500 a month for two children. One 12 year old and another 5 year old. This person is not wealthy, makes six figures in a blue collar job thanks to overtime. What this means is that, in theory, raising those two kids costs $3000 a month in total. Absurd.

[Treasure Chest]

The old one has been final for a while....

That bullshit stretched out for 2 years and I've moved on.

Smurfette has been here to help me through the extreme bullshit of my Ex and her lawyers and she is a good woman.... if that makes me an idiot so be it... anyway....

Any help or constructive thoughts on the issue at hand would be appreciated....

Why are they counting you as being in arrears? Were the garnished payments not quite adding up to the payment schedule (as in, child support is taken out of your check on the 1st and the 15th, where the support order has it taken out bi-weekly?)

Second, have you accessed your online account on child support interactive with your case ID and PIN and looked at the calculation of the discrepancy?

Fuck, my ex is almost 6 months (legitimately) in arrears on our son, in an enforced case, and they haven't gone after him for shit. I don't think they start screwing with you unless your ex is instigating it.

[V8tt]

All of this is true. However, it would help the situation if men weren't raped in court every day for outrageous amounts of money in the name of child support. There are men out there who pay $800 a month for what is supposed to be half of what it costs to support a child. That is absurd by any measure and the children suffer for it because some men just say fuck it and move to another state or disappear.

I don't disagree that the system isn't perfect. But the example you used is not the best example of that. What you are referring to is that child support is based on the father's salary. Hence a man making 30k will not pay the same as a man making 100k, and vice versa. I don't think that is unfair. If a child has a certain standard of living (determined by the father's salary...then why should the child's standard of living suffer because of a divorce? I know, I know...there are bitches out there that use the extra to do what THEY want and not provide for the child per the support given. At that point the issue lies with a shithead mom and not the judicial system. Surely there is a way to deter this and I have my own thoughts on what they should be, but too tired right now to lay them out.

I would say that the powers that be should revamp it/overhaul it..but they fucked it up in the first place. The problem lies with the individual powers of the judge. This country is a rule of law type (in addition to others) but some judges have chips on their shoulders and all too often try to "make examples" out of people; but that's a whole 'nother conversation.

[bcoop]

Just as you say, you can request a paternity test, but if the woman claims you raised the child as your own for any length, you are fucked.

I really think it doesn't matter if you 'raised the child', if you didn't father it, let the bitch go find the daddy to claim child support. As mentioned before, to many hoes getting knocked up just to get a check, many have no idea who the father is, they just claim and get paid.

Stevo

I agree. I think it's horse shit that they overrule common sense like that. Reason #1849472829;8488392017373 to not date a chick with kids.