What to say to girlfriend's ex?

[Sean88gt]

Without reading the entire thread, if she doesn't text back, why is it an issue? He'll fade away quick enough. As has been said on page 1, block the number, unless she is wanting to keep him as a backup.

[bcoop]

His situation may not be the same as yours though...so why would he take your advice verbatim?

He doesn't have to take my advice. Just don't ignore it completely and say he is getting feedback that isn't relevant. Everything said in here is relevant. How is telling her to change her number, and letting her handle it not relevant to what he is asking?


Hell, don't take my advice. I'll be sure to laugh at him when he finally catches them fucking, or when she gets pissed and breaks it off because he got physical with the dude. I'm telling you now.... She's not being 100% truthful. He can think I'm full of shit all he wants. I'll be here to point it out that I was spot on, no worries.

[FATHERFORD]

I'm surprised you haven't posted up his number and just had DFWMustangs deal with him.

[Ruffdaddy]

Apparently you don't know how to read, then. I've given you REAL WORLD experience. I've told you what to do and how to handle. You either don't want to hear it, missed it, or are blind to it. I've said it myself, multiple times in this thread. It's on you now.

His situation may not be the same as yours though...so why would he take your advice verbatim?

[Randy]

And the plot thickens.........

[Mychael101]

Because we're two like minded, no bullshit people that don't invest our time into something if we're half assing it.

I completely believe that you feel what you just said to be true. I just find it highly suspect like others on here that her ex is still trying to communicate with her. Especially, after so much time has passed.

[bcoop]

I'm not making excuses but the things that are being said here are not relevant to the situation. My question was is someone has dealt with something like this and what they found to work/not work.

From this I've gathered -
- Don't meet him in a parking lot
- If she has a family don't expect them to just fall by the wayside
- Put my ego aside and don't rile up his emotions because that's only going to lead to more contact
- Don't get mad when he asks how his dick tastes

Apparently you don't know how to read, then. I've given you REAL WORLD experience. I've told you what to do and how to handle. You either don't want to hear it, missed it, or are blind to it. I've said it myself, multiple times in this thread. It's on you now. How many fucking people posting in here are saying I'm right? Everything I've said is very relevant to the situation. You just dont want to hear it.

[Randy]

But be prepared for a reply with a similar pic with the message "I've seen your girl's butthole!"

simple.... reply back with "but not this stretched out"

[Rick Modena]

Excuses are like assholes, they all smell like they have been getting fucked...

[Jimbo]

They broke up last winter, we met in January and started taking it serious at the end of February.

They broke up in 2010, and he is constantly calling in july 2011? Yeah, there is something missing there.

[Smurfette]

I have had to deal with this a few times..

In my experience ignoring the texts works but takes awhile because some guys just don't give up. If she changes her number the texts will go away but he will then try to contact her on facebook, email or show up at her place. Every time she texts him back (regardless of what they say) he is getting a response and that feeds the situation.

She needs to make it VERY clear that she is not interested, is with you and if he continues then you will be having a conversation with him. Let her deal with it and just be willing to step in if she can't get it to stop .


Good Luck.

[0 GT 2]

Why would you take any relationship "seriously" after only 2 months?

Because we're two like minded, no bullshit people that don't invest our time into something if we're half assing it.

[Silverback]

You forgot to add that she's cheating on you...or at least hiding some texts.

I wouldn't say she's cheating at this point, but it is very possible.

At most she's staying in contact with him outside of your radar, and that's what's causing him to contact her when he's drunk and vulnerable.

[Silverback]

yeah, sounds like you're in for some problems.

This is typically within the six month time frame when he starts calling again, missing her because he's lonely or regrets his mistakes. She still has a connection to him, and if he plays his cards right, he'll win her back.

Dating her that close to their breakup definitely puts you in the rebound category. I'm not saying it can't work between the two of you, but you definitely need to set the ground rules and expectations, and not be afraid to stand up to her. The only two options I'd settle for in this situation would be to block his number, or change her's, it's honestly the only way to get him to stop contacting her. Especially if it's via text. By the time he realizes he's blocked or her number doesn't work, he'll have sent her 100 messages, and gotten extremely pissed at her, that he's talked himself out of wanting her back.

You're trying to stand up to him, when he has the edge on you, he probably knows more about her at this point, what buttons to push, which strings to tug on, than you do.

["MrEd"]

no i didnt read every post.
but
3-4 months later and she still cant shake the "X"...
she is still fucking with him....
leave her alone and i wouldnt even fret over him.
good luck
find you a fat girl!
LOL