What to say to girlfriend's ex?

[bcoop]

I'm not going into this looking for a fight, I just want him to be clear that things have moved on.

But it's not your place to do so. You weren't in a relationship with the dude. She was. It's her responsibility. It's black and white. Because of my past experiences in matters like this, some shit like this comes up with a chick I'm dating, I bounce. She can make it perfectly, absolutely, crystal fucking clear. Not my job. If she doesn't want to make it perfectly clear, or if he were to keep on contacting her, I'm done. Too many slits running around to deal with that crap.

[Doug Hatton]

Brent, I understand you guys have kids, so I'll never make that call man....relax.

To the OP, SHE needs to handle this. No matter what the current bf says, he'll continue to try and sneak a text in here and there especially if she's reciprocating. If she genuinely wants him to quit, SHE needs to make it very clear that he should stop. If he continues after that, then you can whip his ass. But like said above, make sure what she's telling YOU and HIM match.

She has started dating someone else. If I were to receive a call like that, from this new douchebag, he would likely find his teeth rearranged.

[Silverback]

Right... she just gets dressed up and carries around resumes so she can put off changing her number one more week.

That's not what he's saying. He's saying that she could change her resume, and contact the places she's waiting on hear back from with a new number. It's not that uncommon.

Is it a pain in the ass? sure, but so is the annoying ex, right?

[bcoop]

Right... she just gets dressed up and carries around resumes so she can put off changing her number one more week.

Why come here and ask for opinions if you're going to blow them all off, and make excuses? You asked for opinions, we are giving them to you. You can't change your tune now because you don't like or agree with what you are hearing. Everyone here is speaking from experience. If you don't want to listen, that's fine. Don't ask then.


I'll sit back and wait for the "Just found out my girlfriend has been banging her ex" thread, or the update to this one "Well, I went in acting all billy badass, and she got pissed and broke it off".

[0 GT 2]

Been there, done that. Jumped by 4 dudes in a parking lot as I was getting out of the car. Wasn't a husband, but boyfriend that was supposedly an ex, or that's what she told me anyways. Trust me. I speak from experience here.

And also like Drew mentioned, if it was a face to face situation, and you step up, GUARANTEED it's only going to piss the chick off.

I'm 25 and she's 23. It's not a deranged ex-husband/half a family mix up, he's just not over it.

I'm not going into this looking for a fight, I just want him to be clear that things have moved on.

[Silverback]

Wait, this is strangely familiar... is RyanB your gf's ex?

[Jimbo]

I will never understand why chicks think it's so hard to just change their number or block someone's number.

I've dealt with this a couple of times, and usually if they aren't willing to change their number or block the ex's, it's because he is and always will be a backup plan.

Tell her to stop sending texts back, even if they just say "leave me alone." If you do talk to him I wouldn't go about the dickhead way yet and just say she's over you, you should probably do the same. If he keeps on, get a little more assertive.

exactly

Ding ding ding, and the truth is rolling in.

[0 GT 2]

Man you're a sucker for falling for that one...

Right... she just gets dressed up and carries around resumes so she can put off changing her number one more week.

[bcoop]

Yep, it'll sure suck to find it's really her husband and he's pissed because she drained all of his accounts and stole his car. I had a good friend of mine end up getting jumped by his "girlfriend's" husband in an apartment complex parking lot. It's never good when two seemingly random guys drag you out of your car because some stupid bitch has been lying to all of you.

Been there, done that. Jumped by 4 dudes in a parking lot as I was getting out of the car. Wasn't a husband, but boyfriend that was supposedly an ex, or that's what she told me anyways. Trust me. I speak from experience here.

And also like Drew mentioned, if it was a face to face situation, and you step up, GUARANTEED it's only going to piss the chick off.

[0 GT 2]

Tell her to stop sending texts back, even if they just say "leave me alone." If you do talk to him I wouldn't go about the dickhead way yet and just say she's over you, you should probably do the same. If he keeps on, get a little more assertive.

She doesn't text back at all, he just keeps sending them.

[Silverback]

Man you're a sucker for falling for that one...

exactly

[jdgregory84]

Tell her to stop sending texts back, even if they just say "leave me alone." If you do talk to him I wouldn't go about the dickhead way yet and just say she's over you, you should probably do the same. If he keeps on, get a little more assertive.

[Silverback]

I will never understand why chicks think it's so hard to just change their number or block someone's number.

I've dealt with this a couple of times, and usually if they aren't willing to change their number or block the ex's, it's because he is and always will be a backup plan.

[Rick Modena]

Changing her number would be tough because she is in the middle of applying and interviewing for teaching jobs and that number is the contact all of the schools have on file for her.

Man you're a sucker for falling for that one...

[Jimbo]

Because shit like this never ends well. He's going to puff out his chest, and say something like "This is going to stop or else." The other guy is going to call his bluff, and shit goes south from there. Even more so if this is an ex husband rather than an ex boyfriend.


Let the woman handle it. It's that simple. Not once, has anything positive ever come from situations like this where the new guy feels the need to show the old guy who is boss.


You also better make DAMN sure she's not full of shit, and telling you one thing and him another. Women are evil, scandalous cunts. It's all about what makes them look good, and they will lie through their teeth to make themselves look good.

This is the only post you need to listen to, unless you are a "rip your shirt off, come at me bro" guy.