Once again...chivalry is not dead.

[MutherjuggZ]

You do realize I was being completely facetious about yelling at people? You just acknowledged it was rude to not say thank you, when you started your conversation defending it as not being rude. That was my entire intention for our dialog. I just won at the internet.

I didn't acknowledge it, I was asking you from your point of view that they're rude, how does you acting rude in return solve the problem you seem to be so vexed about.


I'll just re-ask the question....

So in your eyes their silence is rude... and in order to stop rude behavior such as this, you act rude in return.... who is it throwing gas on the fire again?

[CJ]

So in order to stop rude behavior, you act rude in return.... who is it throwing gas on the fire again?


I say thank you, please, yes ma'am, yes sir, and every other form of courtesy I can muster to any person of any age, color, or religion. I'm not going to verbally degrade someone and act like an ass because I feel they need to acknowledge my manners....that's just.... RUDE ..... and I'm better than that.

You do realize I was being completely facetious about yelling at people? You just acknowledged it was rude to not say thank you, when you started your conversation defending it as not being rude. That was my entire intention for our dialog. I just won the internet.

[MutherjuggZ]

It's a common courtesy thing. It has nothing to do with the appreciation theory. Women who don't have the common courtesy to be polite are the reason less people bother to do it. That is being rude. It seems through your defense you subscribe to this lack of courtesy. No one asks me to let someone over in traffic, no one asks me to say bless you, thank you, or pardon me. It's common courtesy. By absolving individuals of this it degrades the culture as a whole. Ever seen the difference in how someone treats you in New York City vs. A small Texas town? It's a valuable trait, and that kind of mindset in my opinion is a culmination of the lack of responsibility and laziness our culture continues to promote.

So in order to stop rude behavior, you act rude in return.... who is it throwing gas on the fire again?


I say thank you, please, yes ma'am, yes sir, and every other form of courtesy I can muster to any person of any age, color, or religion. I'm not going to verbally degrade someone and act like an ass because I feel they need to acknowledge my manners....that's just.... RUDE ..... and I'm better than that.

[Nash B.]

Sure it's rude to not say thank you, but expecting a thank you for doing anything it a bit over the top too.

My grandfather always said, "You have manners and you use them everyday, no questions. Not because that's what's expected of you, but because it's the right thing to do." I take it further and say, whether anyone else notices or not. I still know I'm doing the right thing.

I'm also a yes sir, yes ma'am person. I get people all the time who take offense to it, thinking it's an age thing. But it's a respect thing. Hell I say thank you sir/ma'am to waiters, bank tellers, gas station attendants, people holding doors, or just about anyone who does something nice, or a good job.

Exactly.

[Momentomoir]

I hold doors open for anyone. Anytime people hold doors for me or help me get something down I always say thanks. Its nice to see that there are good people out there still. Although I'm pretty sure its in only in Texas I see alot of outa state people get confused by our Texas kindness.

[01-GATOR]

I hold doors open all the time not expecting a thank you. It's rude for people not to say it, how hard can it be.

[CJ]

X2!

Yeah it ticks everyone off I'm sure. If I have a lady do that, and I actually remember her (I do it for all women by instinct) and she continually shows no courtesy, then I may not extend her to courtesy and see if that changes the situation, or at least sparks it.

[joes01bullitt]

I hold doors too. It actually pisses me off when I do and they dont say thanks or even a word for that matter.

X2!

[ELVIS]

Hmmmm On a date?

yes, he has "hummed" several times on our dates

god bless.

[Silverback]

Hmmmm On a date?

Messican, I don't date! That's just when he's been a good bitch

[mstng86]

matt even opens my car door for me and says here you go ma'am.

god bless.

Hmmmm On a date?

[ELVIS]

matt even opens my car door for me!

god bless.

[Silverback]

Wrong. That's being rude, regardless of whether or not they asked you to do it.

Sure it's rude to not say thank you, but expecting a thank you for doing anything it a bit over the top too.

My grandfather always said, "You have manners and you use them everyday, no questions. Not because that's what's expected of you, but because it's the right thing to do." I take it further and say, whether anyone else notices or not. I still know I'm doing the right thing.

I'm also a yes sir, yes ma'am person. I get people all the time who take offense to it, thinking it's an age thing. But it's a respect thing. Hell I say thank you sir/ma'am to waiters, bank tellers, gas station attendants, people holding doors, or just about anyone who does something nice, or a good job.

[Nash B.]

They're not being rude, they're just not giving you the appreciation you think you deserve for doing something that no one asked for you to do in the first place. Right?

Wrong. That's being rude, regardless of whether or not they asked you to do it.

[CJ]

They're not being rude, they're just not giving you the appreciation you think you deserve for doing something that no one asked for you to do in the first place. Right? Now, if they ASKED you to hold the door then not thank you for doing so...that's different.

It's a common courtesy thing. It has nothing to do with the appreciation theory. Women who don't have the common courtesy to be polite are the reason less people bother to do it. That is being rude. It seems through your defense you subscribe to this lack of courtesy. No one asks me to let someone over in traffic, no one asks me to say bless you, thank you, or pardon me. It's common courtesy. By absolving individuals of this it degrades the culture as a whole. Ever seen the difference in how someone treats you in New York City vs. A small Texas town? It's a valuable trait, and that kind of mindset in my opinion is a culmination of the lack of responsibility and laziness our culture continues to promote.