Tell me about Joint Custody

[SEB]

I am curious to learn more about this. We are moving to Rowlett & want to keep a certain safe distance to prevent actual joint custody. We have primary custody, But if we moved in the same County of this person & within 20 miles would this help that person obtain Joint Custody of every other weekend

[BradM]

It's legal in Colorado and Washington now.

[347Mike]

Pull a Sons of Anarchy. Break into her house and stab her with a heroin needle.

[bcoop]

What is wrong with joint custody?

[SEB]

What is wrong with joint custody?

Nothing wrong with it. Just want a routine in my household

[Pro88LX]

it's legal in colorado and washington now.

lol

[bcoop]

Nothing wrong with it. Just want a routine in my household

So how much does he have the kid now? I don't think it's right to keep either parent from a child unless one is unfit. So I don't see a problem with joint custody. And if one of the parents is unfit, it can be proven in court. I'm just not seeing the problem.

[SEB]

So how much does he have the kid now? I don't think it's right to keep either parent from a child unless one is unfit. So I don't see a problem with joint custody. And if one of the parents is unfit, it can be proven in court. I'm just not seeing the problem.

Its the normal setup, Every other weekend type deal. Our concern is provided we move closer that they will attempt to persuade the child to live there at their hoe on a full time basis. Just trying to avoid future problems

[bcoop]

Its the normal setup, Every other weekend type deal. Our concern is provided we move closer that they will attempt to persuade the child to live there at their hoe on a full time basis. Just trying to avoid future problems

Child can't make their own decision until they are over 13 I think, if that helps. It might be 12, I can't remember.

[SEB]

Child can't make their own decision until they are over 13 I think, if that helps. It might be 12, I can't remember.

Child is question we are worried about being persuaded if we move close is 12

[bcoop]

Child is question we are worried about being persuaded if we move close is 12

I'll look around and see what I can find on the age. I get what you are saying, but spending a more equal amount of time with each parent is better for all involved, unless (as stated) one is unfit. Just my opinion of course. I'm pushing for more time with my daughter now that she is getting older.

[SEB]

I'll look around and see what I can find on the age. I get what you are saying, but spending a more equal amount of time with each parent is better for all involved, unless (as stated) one is unfit. Just my opinion of course. I'm pushing for more time with my daughter now that she is getting older.

The parent is actually a great parent and not a ill word I can say about him. Just want Routine in the house. Children need structure & routine.

Thanks Brent

[YALE]

Man, take it from a kid whose parents split at an early age: it isn't how much time they spend at which house that's important. What is important is that all parents involved (even step-parents) have one cohesive plan, and communicate what's going on with the kid to each other. Don't let the kid see daylight between you, and it'll be smooth sailing.

[Big A]

The parent is actually a great parent and not a ill word I can say about him. Just want Routine in the house. Children need structure & routine.

Thanks Brent

That reasoning is completely selfish Seb, there can be plenty of structure with joint custody. It sounds to me like you and the mother just don't want to have to deal with having your own lives affected, at the child's expense.

Put yourself in the father's shoes. How pissed would you be knowing that you and your child are missing out on valuable time together, just because it's inconvenient for the other parent.

[Treasure Chest]

That reasoning is completely selfish Seb, there can be plenty of structure with joint custody. It sounds to me like you and the mother just don't want to have to deal with having your own lives affected, at the child's expense.

Put yourself in the father's shoes. How pissed would you be knowing that you and your child are missing out on valuable time together, just because it's inconvenient for the other parent.

^ this. From experience, if there is open communication between the families, there is a "united front" approach between both households, and petty bullshit is put aside for the best interest of the child, a 50-50 split makes for happier parents and children.