"Oh, and I have a kid"

[stevo]

Wow, what a self centered, arrogant asshole.

Stevo

[Damnittsteve]

the problem is when the lil dude walks in while you are nailing her and runs outside trying to scratch the paint on your mustang with a butter knife!

[BP]

Whats the problem? She's drinking at a bar and I'm guessing not with a group of friends. I doubt she's expecting to meet her future husband and saviour any more than you are looking for a wife.

Having a kid doesn't mean she has herpes or aids. Heck if she's raising the kid on her own and they aren't a little shithead then she's probably a decent person herself. You don't know the background. I'd wonder where the kid is why she's at the bar before getting too interested, I mean if she leaves him in the apartment with an X-box as a baby sitter that's not a good sign.

[jluv]

There's a real good chance that you're going to go through a few more relationships before you find your final one (if you ever do), so why rule out chicks based just on that alone? It could be a great life/learing experience. Start out having fun and see if an exit strategy is even necessary. A lot (not all) chicks with kids are more mature and responsible than other chicks that age. You know they put out. And it's good practice.

She has a kid, not AIDS. If you walk away as soon as you hear it, you're likely missing out. It's not like you have to marry her and adopt her kid if you take her home from the bar.

[Real Estate Nate]

Sounds like you are tossing away a perfectly good set of training wheels.

[mustangguy289]

You could just say you are married.

the next morning.

[forbes]

tell her she needs to swallow next time

[mstng86]

You could just say you are married.

[347Mike]

Tell her you are or are going to school to become a doctor, then after you bang her tell her you were just kidding and you quit because of Obama's healthcare plan! That'll show'er!

[Cannon88]

Tell her you have 3 and one in the oven.

Nice!

[mustangguy289]

Tell her you have 3 and one in the oven.

[papapepper]

Just walk alway.

[mstng86]

You're 22? I thought you were older..

He is in college.

DOHCTR, kids are not as bad as you think they are. You definitely don't need them cluttering up your life to get your career established though. Just say I got to go, and if she asks, just say you can't get involved with a woman with a kid right now.

Oh, and props for the slowhand joke. We have mutual feelings on that.

[Grimpala]

It's not all that bad, my dad married my mom. It was a beautiful wedding, I was only two but I remember a lot of it. We all turned out ok 27 years later. I understand if that's not your thing, but it's not the end of the world. Do you know her situation, was she left/cheated on, husband was enlisted and died serving, raped?

Many variables to be considered, hell it's not like you have to be the kids dad right away.

[mustangguy289]

Ask her why she is at the club and not with her child.

That should shut her up for a while or atleast give you some good material to share with us.