For the married couples...a question for the men

[bluecollar]

Not the norm, but.......

Asked her out after 5 minutes of meeting her. We dated and things progressed super quickly. I proposed to her after 4 months. We were married 5 months later.

We definitely had our ups and downs. She actually left me, for 2 months. We had been married for 2 years, and she was overwhelmed. She was confused and just felt too confined. She was working 50+ hours a week and it was too much. I prepared myself for a divorce, but had a feeling it wouldn't get there. She came back, with a new respect for everything I did for her. I took her back, and things have never been better. Going on 5 years, and we are happier than ever.

I do agree, however, that you don't need to rush or overthink things.

[Vertnut]

I've been married longer than the majority of this board has been on planet earth. I've (we've) been very lucky. We've accomplished things together that we couldn't have alone. Marriage is a partnership in the purest sense of the word. If you're not ready for a true life-long partnership, don't do it.

[Country cracker]

*Patiently waiting for Chili to respond*

For some reason chili has been blocked from responding to this thread, damn mods!

[Leah]

*Patiently waiting for Chili to respond*

[A+]

When I knocked her up.

[351Coupe]

After much thought and 13 years experience, I say don't do it. Never again for me. You let her out of the kitchen one time and...............

[Pokulski-Blatz]

I'm just nitpicking at the smallest actions. This is a first for me. Patience has never been one of my strongest virtues.

Quit over thinking it.

[idrivea4banger]

Don't over analyze. You can beat anything to death and end up getting a shit result.

Like I said, if you aren't going anywhere and you get along ... fuck it. Just make sure you feel like you know who she is. Go in eyes wide open.

I know her inside and out. We're so damn similar, we think alike. And even after all the crazy stories about her, I still love her for it. I'm just nitpicking at the smallest actions. This is a first for me. Patience has never been one of my strongest virtues.

[Pokulski-Blatz]

I haven't done anything yet but I'm starting to rethink things. I'm over analyzing and fuck it. Seems like it's a one way street. Fuck it...

Don't over analyze. You can beat anything to death and end up getting a shit result.

Like I said, if you aren't going anywhere and you get along ... fuck it. Just make sure you feel like you know who she is. Go in eyes wide open.

[idrivea4banger]

I haven't done anything yet but I'm starting to rethink things. I'm over analyzing and fuck it. Seems like it's a one way street. Fuck it...

[Rick Modena]

Dude, RUUUUUNNNNN!!!!!!!

[Rreemo]

We were together 8 years before we got married. I like to be DAMNED sure.

[bcoop]

It looks like there's more positive comments regarding marriage than the negative side.

It is what you make of it. I became unhappy for a variety of reasons, and flat out gave up.


You need to do your due diligence. You don't know someone after 6 months. You don't really know them after a year, either. Men have everything to lose and nothing to gain (financially) from a marriage. You need to separate your feelings from it and look at from a business perspective. What could you lose? Are you willing to risk that on a 50/50 chance of this marriage working out? How about losing half of what you have, and 20-25% of your future income if y'all have kids?

I'd also take a lot of time to think about what it is that you hope to get out of it. People have incredibly unreal expectations. And I would NEVER even consider marrying someone who is relentlessly pushing for a marriage, ring, etc. Women do this when they become unhappy, and foolishly think a ring is going to make things better. They don't. Ever. And that's just the beginning. That ring then becomes a wedding. Then a kid. Then multiple kids. It's the most illogical shit I've ever heard. A buddy of mine is dealing with this right now. Blows my mind. She is very bold and outspoken about it, has no problem bringing it up in front of anyone. She's also the same way about kids, despite his complete lack of desire to have kids, ever. I would have told her to pack her shit the first time she pulled something like that.

[chuckacosta]

I honestly thought that the girl that I dated for over 2 years and broke up with last month was "the one". But as luck, stubbornness, and just plain non communication (mostly on my part) would have it we ended up in splitsville. It's hard to say really. I'd have to agree though that if you can be together without being at each others throats and it just "works" then why the hell not?

[idrivea4banger]

It looks like there's more positive comments regarding marriage than the negative side.