For the married couples...a question for the men

[BP]

I knew my wife for 6 months or so before I really started trying to date her. She was a good person in a bad situation, not of her doing and I managed to help her get out of it. We "officially" dated for 5 months before I popped the question but she had a very good idea it was going to happen, seeing as how she picked out the ring a few days before. The wedding was less than a month later.

[TxFordGirl]

Go to sleep, Hugo, before you do something you regret!

This made me laugh.

[Big A]

You realize you can't ask her to marry you before.. ahem... "We" meet her, correct?

lol Well, damn, I guess I'll have to make it a lengthy engagement to give "you" a chance to talk me out of it, I don't know that we'll make it out that way in 2014.

I wanted to, but the family had other plans.

You realize you can't ask her to marry you before.. ahem... "We" meet her, correct?

[Big A]

I thought you were going to make the Christmas Party?

I wanted to, but the family had other plans.

Nah man not that one HAHAHAHA.

Eh, not really a rush but I just feel it and ready to roll. I honestly don't know how to explain it. Sounds gay but it is what it is

Just because "you're ready" doesn't mean you have to do it RIGHT NOW. Being ready just means you're, dare I say, maturing a bit and looking at being open to that commitment, which is good. It is still no reason to rush. Stretch your legs. Travel with her some. You spend the first year getting to know the person she wants you to know. You spend the second year getting to know the real her. Trust me on this shit, bro.

I brought my wife over to my apartment after our first date and we fucked for hours.

After completion she got up, went to the kitchen, and made my a grilled cheese sandwich.

To this day she will still ask if I want a sandwich even after a quicky. Probably why we are both fat.

lmfao. That's awesome.

Funny to pop on this morning and see this thread, after bringing Tanya to TX for the week to spend time with my family, I was wondering this very thing. I have yet to see even an inkling in her that she isn't marriage material, and she got along with the fam great.

I don't subscribe to the "she's the one" mentality anymore, but everything is still firing on all 8 cylinders between us, so I'm thinking I might be looking at rings in a couple more months.

I thought you were going to make the Christmas Party?

[downshift_me]

That's a woman with her priorities in order.

All I could think of was Bad Santa, lol.

[slow99]

We dated 16 months before getting engaged, then were engaged for 13 months before getting married.

[Big A]

Funny to pop on this morning and see this thread, after bringing Tanya to TX for the week to spend time with my family, I was wondering this very thing. I have yet to see even an inkling in her that she isn't marriage material, and she got along with the fam great.

I don't subscribe to the "she's the one" mentality anymore, but everything is still firing on all 8 cylinders between us, so I'm thinking I might be looking at rings in a couple more months.

[bcoop]

I brought my wife over to my apartment after our first date and we fucked for hours.

After completion she got up, went to the kitchen, and made my a grilled cheese sandwich.

To this day she will still ask if I want a sandwich even after a quicky. Probably why we are both fat.

That's a woman with her priorities in order.

[idrivea4banger]

I brought my wife over to my apartment after our first date and we fucked for hours.

After completion she got up, went to the kitchen, and made my a grilled cheese sandwich.

To this day she will still ask if I want a sandwich even after a quicky. Probably why we are both fat.

[FATHERFORD]

I brought my wife over to my apartment after our first date and we fucked for hours.

After completion she got up, went to the kitchen, and made my a grilled cheese sandwich.

To this day she will still ask if I want a sandwich even after a quicky. Probably why we are both fat.

[GhostTX]

When I realized she wasnt psycho!

Naw...all women are crazy; it's just the level of crazy you can deal with.

[idrivea4banger]

Love is in the air.

[GhostTX]

I don't know about "the one" notion, lightning striking or whatever. Sure, love is feelings and emotions. Passion. Etc. But love is also a choice. You can choose to fall in love or out of love at will. All I know is that two people have strong feelings for each other and decide to make a lifelong commitment out of it. As long as you DECIDE it's a lifelong commitment, and commit to it as lifelong, then you can make it last. To go into a marriage with the "eh, if it doesn't work, we can divorce" attitude, your marriage won't last at the smallest bump.

Dated for 4 years, been married for 15 years. We've had some major fights/arguments. Had our share of bumps. But divorce is never an option for us and we work it out (some take longer than others). She's changed. I've changed. We don't do some things we used to do and do other things we didn't use to.

I know a couple that dated for 4 months and got married. I also know a couple that was more or less an arranged marriage, met, got to know each other for a month or so, then got married. Both couples been married for nearly 10 years now.

Again, marriage is a choice. Decide to make it a life decision. Love is a choice, too. Decide to love the other person unconditionally. You can make it work...if you choose to.